Skip to main content

A Place for two

Women fill big shoes there’s no doubt about it. They are mothers, daughters, best friends, wives, and the list goes on. They do it with such love and intensity that we are often in awe of each other. When thrown in the role they’ll try and play dad too so there’s no question about their abilities. I call it understated resilience. I often acknowledge such facts because after all we live in a man’s world and sometimes we don’t get the credit that is due. But I must clear; there is no replacing a father. All children should know the love, adoration, and strength of a father’s love. I believe there is a reason that we have two parents. Of course I’m sensitive to the fact that it’s not the case for everyone. I certainly don’t want to make others have to justify or explain their reality. That’s not the point of this post. Born in a single parent household I’m familiar with the struggles. In fact depending on how your role is defined you could be in a two parent household and still have single parenting roles. However I want to acknowledge the benefits and beauty of having been loved by a father be it your biological father, spiritual father, or miracle inspiration.
The beauty of knowing the love of strong hands gives you a perspective and value on life that has longevity in the spirit of how you live out your own. I liken it to anchor that holds a ship at the harbor. A father’s love is that anchor to a child’s life that keeps the human soul intact against the harsh winds of the world.
Notice I didn’t give a gender to the child. That’s because both boys and girls need that. It does fashion who we are as men and women. The role of a mother is such a fixture in many homes that we forget that a father’s role is primary too. Many times when discussing a life issue it’s clear that the person needed a mom. But then occasionally you hear about a situation and you think this person needed a father; someone to reaffirm who you are giving you confidence.
Read my post from Father’s Day 2011 where I discuss fathers.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Just thinking

Love is the thing that makes you smile, knows when you need a hug, supports you when you need uplifting, is a calming force, an ally when needed, but more importantly a hand to hold in times good, bad, and otherwise. Love is not be feared. But we should fear never giving ourselves and truly loving.
2 comments
Read more

A Nice Breeze and a Bit of Perspective

As I stated yesterday I went for a walk and enjoyable it was. It was windy and I loved it. 70 degrees and a breeze didn't make for a bad time outdoors at all. Needless to say it brought yesterday's earlier agitation (read totally perturbed) to a simmer and provided an interesting perspective. I relished the blowing air and thought about my time in college. It was great and I got through it with out too much drama or incident (with the exception of a few memorables, which is for another day another post). That being said, I didn't drink, smoke or experiment with drugs. I don't say that as some type of badge of honor because that's not the case at all. But it was apparent, that somewhere along the way I truly believed what my grandparents told me growing up about character, honor, and integrity. However, the older I get I've grown wary or maybe even cynical at what maybe appears to be watered-down standards we've immersed ourselves in society. Notice I say ...
1 comment
Read more

Movie Watch

Keep the reel running. Just kidding kinda. Actually I say that because I was not a big TV person(literally). It was not uncommon for several weeks to go by with out me turning it on. But I've probably watched more TV this year than I have ever. That being said, I've learned a few things. TV has given me a different perspective on life. Not entirely but enough to learn something. Of course some of the greatest fun I've had is identifying what I like and don't like about the films and why. Some lessons learned have come out of the most unsuspecting shows. Here's something interesting to do, think about the movies and TV shows you've seen this year and think about how they have made you ponder during the 1st decade of the 21st Century. Here's one of the realizations I've discovered in 2010. People can be reckless with the lives of others. And after having learned that, here's the reality check I got in my own life- those who are reckless in their ca...
1 comment
Read more