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I want to camp out here with this whole love, relationships and making a positive contribution to society idea. I think it makes for great conversation. Why? Because love determines a great deal of our actions. There's a saying I remember hearing that goes something like "find a man's heart and their you'll find where his treasures lie. I took that to mean whether it people or things etc....  the heart of the person is where you'll find those things that a person values most. That's one of the reasons why I've never understood why people forsake communication. To me the easiest thing to do is to have a conversation about what's important. You find a person you can trust and communicate with and the rest is made much easier. I say this a lot but must say it again, the times when people are not on one accord is when they don't really talk about what's important. For example you need something from someone but you don't ask. You talk about ever...

~Non-verbal communication can so easily be misunderstood. This is why you first start with positive conversations, as they are the building block to establishing strong relationships. And from there you can learn to communicate on different levels. ~ T.G Often times we neglect spending the quality time with each other to hear and understand the hearts of those you care about. But when you take the time to share a few extra minutes or hours with a friend or loved one you are afforded the opportunity of clarity and understanding in your relationships. For both, our actions and conversations, we learn who cares for us and, who is truly our friend. For these things take time and effort but it is worth it- worth the effort to know friend or foe.  And my how it is a pleasure to fellowship with one who can be called friend.

February is Black History Month and sense Valentines Day is the middle of February I'm going to consider it the month of love too. I never looked at it that way but considering the time we are in I think it's apropos that love be intermingled with issues that are of strong civil and moral nature. I think it balances things out. That being said, this month lends good energy for you to assess where you are, how well you've done with the things you've planned at the beginning of the year, your thoughts about how you as a people (African American) have advanced, and your thoughts on what you desire. From that perspective some things become so clear.  I know what I want. I've never been the type to want something someone else has, I don't want to project my life on to someone else and I believe that positive partnerships are really key to positive living and successful endeavors. This allows you to inspire rather than take from one another. If you look closely at...

~I'm learning... you couldn't have made things clearer~

 Evening glow in Florida  Be the positive light that sparkles, dances on the water, make home a beautiful place to be and casts a beautiful glow at night.

I have been asked to clarify one of the comments I made in my post on January 25th. I wrote being fearless is.."I simply love you". The response was, "people say I love you all the time". And that is true. However, in my innocence I use to think that love had no outside challenges. Who would challenge love right. Where they doing that at? But I realized that people will go to great lengths to keep love apart and that's only one aspect. How about what it takes to be great and strong all while still being able to be intimate and soft. I've learned it's not always easy, neither is it encouraged. And so it takes being fearless to love when everything is against having love and being in love. Look at this video. Being good at what you do and the ability to be vulnerable when you are taught to be strong. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9Swo1anaCE With this example you see great pain, risk and loss that comes with being vulnerable. However, many who hav...

As promised, while having some quiet time yesterday I thought about the whole idea and concept of being fearlessly individual. And let me say this, from the outset, the breadth and depth of the human experience is far too involved for me to speak on the matter in one or two postings. But I want to at least give some coverage of the matter. Fearlessly individual is about owning your own life experiences. Hypothetically speaking, do you like being you? I know that we all have adversity and challenges but intermixed with all of that is something special, and people who are fearlessly individual can create and envision great things out of their life experiences. The movie Catch Me if You Can comes to mind. Why? In this story the actor was everyone else but himself. How fulfilling could that be? But when you can be the main character in your own life, it can be the most enjoyable experience there is. Now let me clarify lest someone misinterprets*. Other people inspire us, share with us...

Yesterday I had a few errands to run, one of which was to go and look for a particular book. And for a Monday there seemed to be a lot of people out. Of course that is always a great opportunity to feel the energy in the atmosphere. It really can give you a sense of what's going on in the environment (not to mention that social interaction is a good thing.) But as I sat there reading I noticed a spread of magazines, all different type and trade. Out of the 60+ I noticed that only a handful had people of color on the front cover. Having just celebrated MLK Day and with black history month just around the corner of course I reflected on this visual. I thought we have come a long ways but it is still a work in progress. If I were honest it was a bit sobering. I can't quite explain why. Perhaps because part of me would like to think we have arrived to that place of unquestionable equality. Wishful thinking ehh- I don't know? Some of it I know is tied to knowing what it's ...

I read something very powerful this morning. And it made me think. If a lie is deception, then the truth must feel like a touch of love. So then, why do we withhold it-love that is?

Isn’t it funny how the innocent things make for lasting memories? That’s when I’m thankful that a little reflection is good on days like today. Not feeling the best and then you remember something that is altogether sweet. Like how sometimes you take, some times you give, but oh how special it is when together we create something hilariously indescribable…sometimes the unexpected happens and you remember just how special it was. And out of it comes something wonderfully funny, unbelievable and yes beautiful. And just how beautiful it is depends on you. So maybe today isn’t that day for you. But when that day or should I say night comes, I don’t know about you, but I plan on making it beautiful. Don’t know what I mean, listen to the link below. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lKbsjGol-TY Quote of the Day Often times we forget that part of being human is being spiritually grounded, finding your purpose, developing who you are, lending yourself to good works and yes loving and being in...

Feel like something's holding you. Maybe so maybe not. But I sure have, you know, felt like something was pressing in my way. But when I read over all my thoughts and feelings I know it's time to go forth. And do all the the things I desire, find out whose truly real and not. But still press forth. What about you?

I woke up this morning not feeling well. But through the blinds the sun was brightly shining in my face. I thought, it's still going to be a good day after all.

 A Drop of Moisture  Sometimes a troublesome inquiry that causes a little bit of worry, is the needed drop of moisture to awaken the flower of friendship and get to the heart of family love.

Love is the thing that makes you smile, knows when you need a hug, supports you when you need uplifting, is a calming force, an ally when needed, but more importantly a hand to hold in times good, bad, and otherwise. Love is not be feared. But we should fear never giving ourselves and truly loving.

Give no one the right to decide for you, neither should one desire to. Accept nothing that would put you in bondage, compromise or jeopardize that right. Thus we believe in the fallacies of the individuals who thought they could... The world can not be parent to us all. Although you'll find those who have been put in your life to inspire and join in love with you in this walk of life. But let it be known that legally God only ordained two. And even they after an appointed time must relinquish their right to exclusively choose and serve as a guide in your life. If for no other reason, they realize that to walk in agreement two must be joined by their decisions. Besides denial of the right to make one's own decisions would be met with opposition by the Government of the free world.

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My birthday is in January and even though I celebrate MLK day, it never occurred to me that I share this month with so many great people. I'm honored. I especially want to say Happy Birthday to First Lady Michelle Obama and everyone else whose birthday falls on the holiday today. Everyone have a great rest of the day!!

Please know that I am, you are, we are free. Verily I say to you the sacrifice has been made several times over for the right and all other manner of such liberties.

Misunderstanding is preceded by lack of communication therefore make swift toward conversation. Be swift in letting others know you value the friendship and relationship. You can't say for anyone else what is due them. You just have to know what is due you. Ladies, let not looks and charm be the illusion to draw you away from what you know to be right and pledge not to hurt friends because of it. Make no excuse for trying to delay happiness when you yourself are wrapped in the arms of the one you love. Don't accuse one of not being swift in their actions, only to follow them around and hinder their progress. Don't profess the mountain achievable to climb if you are going to be the one striving to pull them down. Don't take the bread nor the crumbs that one has created either by vision or accomplishment and then pity them when they have no food after you have taken it to make wealth for others. To every woman who supports and encourages another, w...

Serving in your country's armed forces is one of the most honorable and admirable things one can do. My Grand father and father served in the U.S. military and upon completion my dad worked and retired from a federal job.  Like him, many of my family members including myself, went on to work in the public sector. So when I heard that the young man who shot a member of congress in Tucson may have been rejected to serve in the military; I was able to make a potential connection to his anger. Of course no one really knows and many health professionals believe that it was not just one single factor but several that led toward this young man's tragic action. But upon hearing this my heart was overcome with sympathy for his family, congresswoman Gifford, and others who were hurt by his actions. Several factors seem to have come colliding together between those who are serving, wish to serve and support them who serve. So in earnest I pray for heali...

I don't know, am I the only one who didn't know that colored wristbands have a meaning?  Not sure if it's limited to bands only or includes articles of clothing. Whatever the case, I was totally shocked to find out. Not everyone wears clothing based on any meaning other than, this is what I picked to wear today.  But I thought it was funny and interesting at best to learn this new trend among the youth. Who knew? Of course this might be a nice game to play with your husband or special guy. Check the below site out for reference. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081130083640AADOuVC

Never let others discredit your life. Sometimes you have to send a PSA annoucement I'm still here. Pinch yourself you are real. Embrace those who are genuine, who truly value your life and friendship.

Whatever you endeavor to do, let it be yours. Never let anyone try and project their thoughts as yours, their feelings, or their motives. No, let every man reason for himself seeking God to find their perspective. We should never try to attach our needs to someone else except we commune together. And never ask a man, especially a woman to carry the burden for anothers errors lest they be in agreement. This is why I find the precision of these words to be exact. Actions not words are the true criterion for the attachment of friends~George Washington

Sometimes you can have the best intentions but, if there's a  break in communication your intentions can be misunderstood. At which point you want to quickly address the matter to achieve unity and be on one accord. This is why one should never sacrifice or be made to sacrifice knowledge or communication. It is the bedrock of our social interactions and to do so is simply unwise. Remember to love someone is to love the people they love or tolerate them at the least.

Welcome and thanks for browsing my page. If you want to know about me, my thoughts and what I like to blog about keep reading. I am a chemist by training, educator by choice, and entrepreneur by happenstance and interest. I believe in the foundations of freedom that built the U.S., life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. So if you happen to follow me and if you like what you read please comment and share your thoughts. This blog is in no way intended to encourage anyone toward any type of negative actions, or wrong doing. To the contrary, it is intended to encourage honesty, integrity,  a different perspective and conversation on matters that readers can agree or disagree. And lastly, it is not written with any specific reader in mind. If you have questions about content please feel free to ask so that you can know the intent of the writer. And of course you are welcome to exchange thoughts and philosophies in a manner that fosters positive idea sharing. Sincerely, T...

Sometimes you know when things have come to a halt, the train stops here, you should be headed to a new destination or new place in your life. Whatever it is we have to be to ourselves what we want. I purposed in myself this year that love was one of the supreme things to embrace in my life. With eyes wide open, I run to it. So I say to you, be part of the positive forces in your own life. Be what we need to be to our children and run toward all things good and good for you with the wind at your back. If you want your children to honor you- be honor, and speak life into their ears when they are young, and their life will bring you joy If you want peace-be peace If you want love- open up and love fearlessly If you want hope- reach up and grab it If you believe in liberty-demand freedom If you are in need of rest- give your mind a break, sit back, relax and enjoy the abundance of some place nice Enjoy your weekend!

I was laughing this morning thinking about my sister. She always tells me "You doing the most", "You ask too many questions". And we both end up laughing. But next time I'll have an answer for her. I'll tell her:   We ask questions because someone may have a vested interest in our ignorance.

Yesterday and early this morning  I read about several things. A young man who unfortunately killed several people including injuring a congresswoman. And a Governor who commutes a death sentence. I leave out specifics because I'm really interesting in the framework and effect that these two events have on society. And moreover I am relating them to the question of today's blog. Is it a sign of the times or is something in the atmosphere? I pose that question because both of these occurrences reflect where we are today. We question whether a highly charged political environment can incite violence and we recognize the need to consider life altering decisions a bit further and correct errors when needed. So to answer my own question, I think it's a matter of both. I think we are in a time where we know that we have to right some wrongs, be more deliberate about our decisions, and check the pulse of this country to see just how we are living. The Governor made...

When things get crazy and the earth feels like it's tilting, sometimes you have to stop, pause, and say do I have the right perspective, am I moving in the right direction, and is this the best decision. Channeling your emotions can be difficult, and for some it takes discipline but it is worth investing the time and practices of learning to do so into ourselves and our children. I can remember my grandmother telling me several times "you'll learn" and "right don't wrong nobody". This was the usual comment followed by some wise advice. And don't you know when I was younger I hated it. But now that I'm older I so appreciate the wisdom she shared. It has caused me to understand a many things about myself, people, and life. A wise woman (or man) knows when to take corrective measures to make sure they're headed in the right direction. Besides what would be the point of continuing otherwise. Believe it or not many of us do it all the time j...

Now I understand why people buy in bulk. My favorite scent is no more, discontinued. It has been for while. So why am I talking about it today? Because I'm still hoping that one day, to my surprise, it will reappear. Anyone ever felt this way. Is it wishful thinking?

Assuming that people have the best intentions and they wouldn't get close to you for some type of gain (material or otherwise) that is unfavorable for you- think about this. Who would you entrust to make major decisions for you? My response:  There’s a saying in the bible," No good thing will God withhold from them that walks uprightly" Psalm 84:11.  I would hope that my brethren would do the same for me as I would for them. So the people who I have access to, who know my heart, desires, and character are the ones that I would trust with decisions. Essentially those who can serve my best interest with out causing me harm. Which is what I would do for someone else. By the way, don't think the question too far-fetched. Some situations involve the support and judgement of others, not all input is benign. Just giving us something to think about.

Today was the perfect winter day. There's a crisp breeze outside, the kind that when the air hits can bring about a chilling revelation. And if you are standing inside the door looking out, the front of you is being hit by that winter cool and the backside by the warmness of the inside, your body adjusting to create a body temparture that balances out both. Kind of like the two movies I saw this morning. You know some days are just made for a look at the snow, a warm beverage, your favorite cover and a good flick. It's the perfect combination of bliss and entertainment.

Lately I've been hearing a lot of talk on the TV about injustice, oppression and all those things that in some way cause a loss. I'm not surprised though, I too have read it, you can see it on the Internet and in the news for yourself. .There's one story that comes to mind about a pair of sisters who were at best, from the information I read, serving a sentence that was too harsh for the crime. Of course I keep looking for more information to see how their sentence is even rationale. So for the sake of not having enough information, I'll table the discussion until later. Having said that, there are a lot of things that comply and corroborate the fact that we still have to deal with errors that have been systematically allowed unfortunately. Here's the thing, I think it's important to be aware of the difference in accountability and trying to get someone be accountable without their knowledge. The two have different effects and different outcomes. The two ...

Life has enough difficulty of it's own. We should never let anyone convince us to withhold our love or stop from expressing it. Lost time can never be replaced.

Listening to music and reflecting on the fact that love is a good thing. What a wonderful feeling to be woman, needed and wanted and to reciprocate that love. To the women who don't always fit the image of what society deems endearing but still showed us how to love, taught us appreciation and other wonderful attributes, you change the earth's sphere of influence and teach the young that they are special too.

Being in the presence of a genuine soul far outweighs being in a room full of people with alterior motives. So relish time spent with those who truly care about your well-being.

Early this morning I dreamed that someone who I held in great respect allowed someone to tell a lie that caused major problems in the lives of many. Perhaps she was needy for the relationship and thought it fitting not to address the lie. I'm not sure. I suppose that's why you have to examine those whom you have respect for.  I woke up with this thought on my mind. A true friend would never take something at your expense or in a manner that lacks integrity and honesty. They would never believe anything without first fact-checking with you. And if they love you they will always come to you with the truth. Here's what I learned: Deception and destruction usually starts with a lie that involves other people which keeps the lie going. Innocent people (and maybe even children) get caught up and those who willfully participate in the matter become intertwined if the lie is intricate enough. You'll find that the person...

Every major decision should be given thought and made with great care. That is why I do not believe in or agree to unspoken expectations or hidden agendas. They are of no positive consequence and do not add value to your life. While talking with someone they used a comparison that involved two family members and their birthrights. The analogy is derived from a famous story in the bible. I was really perplexed by the analogy and had to give it a great deal of thought. I didn't understand what they were trying to convey put it did provoke my consciousness regarding the strength and love of relationships. To honor or value any relationship you must have open communication. It would be dangerous emotionally and otherwise to share your life with someone who did not value what is significant to you or what is rightfully yours. Value added relationships are a positive addition to your life not a detraction. Be cautious with those who have no tho...

We frustrate love when we make choices in the absence of knowing, never stopping to ask. If you want to know how someone thinks, what they desire, how they feel... take a moment and ask them.

Thought for the day Ethics should not be reduced so low that we ravage the innocence, moral character, or integrity of society. To do so is to morally bankrupt the fabric of our existence. You don't want to look around and have to wonder if there is anything good left to hold on to. I'll tell you the truth, TV has really opened my eyes. As I've said in previous posts, I've never been a big TV watcher. But the past several months has been a provocation of sorts. Many revelations have been positive and insightful but a great deal more have been heartbreaking. Albeit most shows are meant to entertain but, they still create opportunities to learn, often indicating we've got to check our internal compass to make sure we are headed in a positive direction, making our world a better place to live.

To be in love, Have   family,   friends, and His Presence is a gift from above. That is why, when you live, you honor those who have loved you through the years.

Do not let spacious plans for a new world divert your energies from saving what is left of the old. ~ Winston Churchill What's your thoughts on this?  Today it says to me, while you are in the process of thinking of new beginnings let some of the good things from the old help shape the new.

Purpose in yourself that this year you will strengthen and develop skills so that you can use every God given gift you have. On your mark, get ready, set, let's Go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First let me start by saying, this poem was done several years ago. It incorporates the many facets of our life including who you are, where you come from, and where you are going. Its intended to mix reality with hope, fun with joy and optimism with vision. It's a tribute to accepting who you are and having the courage to be. The courage to accept having something to offer. The courage to accept being beautiful in different shapes and hues. The Beauty of Imperfection The psalmist said I will praise thee, For I am fearfully and wonderfully made Making me a woman of integrity, simplistically with dignity I do what is right and keep my distance from those who bring strife From those who don't know the good from the evil Right from wrong, I'm careful to protect my throne The place where God keeps me safe and shows me his face From the crown of my head to the sole of my feet, God breathed on me.  Born with a head full of thick hair My main is my Glory-that's...

As I stated, we are closing out the first decade of the 21st Century. I thought it would be interesting to go back to the 20th Century and see what my goals were. I went back to 1999 and suffice it to say I wasn't surprised to see the vision I had written for my life. I was relieved to see that I had accomplished some things. However, there was still more for me to do. My journal entry consisted of 13 goals. One of those 13 goals was traveling around the world. I still have that to accomplish. In addition I was looking at school opportunities as well (3 of them), business endeavors and other wonderful things. What I found interesting is that 3 of those dreams I'm still hoping to see come to past. With that, here's what I know for sure: Not all people will encourage you and your dreams. Make sure you surround yourself with people who love, support and care for you. Those who will embrace your vision.  I  can remember when I heard the term dream killers and...