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Moving Toward The Center Creating Livable Solutions

Lately I've been hearing a lot of talk on the TV about injustice, oppression and all those things that in some way cause a loss. I'm not surprised though, I too have read it, you can see it on the Internet and in the news for yourself. .There's one story that comes to mind about a pair of sisters who were at best, from the information I read, serving a sentence that was too harsh for the crime. Of course I keep looking for more information to see how their sentence is even rationale. So for the sake of not having enough information, I'll table the discussion until later. Having said that, there are a lot of things that comply and corroborate the fact that we still have to deal with errors that have been systematically allowed unfortunately.

Here's the thing, I think it's important to be aware of the difference in accountability and trying to get someone be accountable without their knowledge. The two have different effects and different outcomes. The two dominating factors are knowledge and innocence. Let me explain, a person who manages a group usually is accountable for the entire group. And if someone makes a mistake (especially in a business) the offending person who makes the error usually owns up to it and tells the manager. But the magnitude of the mistakes may cause for the managing person to address and assume the responsibility for the error. This is an eyes wide open to the situation way of doing things. But remember the distinction I was talking about, between knowingly being accountable and people trying to make you accountable-well awareness is also a huge part of it. Being accountable for something you are not aware of is passive aggressive and can be destructive not to mention deny acknowledgment of innocence. And often times it can lend itself to loss caused by the one who made the mistake.

Here's another thing I believe, you don't make innocent people culpable for a child's mistake. For those who agree to it, no harm no foul. But typically, that's the parents responsibility to work that out. And you must always double check the truth when dealing with children. And guess what, there's a real easy way to do this, ask all involved parties. Often times the best recourse for dealing with important matters are not used. But doing so affords all parties to discuss the matter and find an agreeable solution. Again, this is why you should  inform the legal parent (or guardian) when addressing minors because, the parent may need to at the very least make sure their child's rights are protected and at best determine what is the best course of action. Not to mention young people these days are impressionable and can be lead wrong without these boundaries. I raise this part of the conversation because in the case of the Scott Sisters there were minors involved. It was believed that the children may have lied. I'm not sure. But in an everyday scenario, you must always validate what a minor says with their parents, and all involved parties. To do anything less is reckless. Why?  Because we all have a right to an established defense and standard of care.

When we make errors, we correct them. We own up to them. And we don't make innocent people pay for the truth. We don't hold people unknowingly accountable for something they didn't do. And when someone has been wronged-well we protect and extend life and makeup for the mistake.  You know what I've noticed, we are willing to trust the wrong individuals to hold closely our errors but, we often make people who have a right for the truth pay for it,  It's kinda oxymoron how we've built a system around this way of thinking. Are we too willing to sacrifice, deny, withhold from the wrong ones? Are we responsible enough to correct the matter appropriately? When we are, I think we'll find that, the very people we withheld the truth from, are the very people who have the best livable solutions.

So why do I say livable solutions? Because yes someone has to correct the mistake in a manner that is fitting and recovers loss, and yes we get to the root of the problem, but the same trust you have given those to deceive, you should entrust it to others to solve. This gets positive energy flowing. And this is how we move to the center. We correct, we love, and we live to teach others how to do the same-even  make better decisions.

Whew!!!

Life teaches us that humor is always needed. So please see this in the light manner that it is ended.

Satirical thought: I must be careful who I entrust major decisions, make sure they are fully informed, one who is drawn away from telling the truth. That is of course if I have been given such a choice.

 Things that make you go humph. I hope this makes you smile.

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